LEADERSHIP STORY: THE POWER OF ASKING WHY INSTEAD OF ASSUMING YOU KNOW EVERYTHING

Years ago, there lived a wise and noble king. The king lived a happy life with his beautiful wife. Then, only a few years after their marriage, his wife got very sick. Sadly, she died soon after. Unfortunately, this tragedy occurred before having children, leaving the king to rule the kingdom alone, without his bride beside him. While devastated by the loss of his wife, the king stayed true to his commitment to rule with honor and take care of the people in his kingdom.

The love for his wife was so strong, the king couldn’t bear the thought of ever getting married again. So as the years passed, having no children of his own, the king knew the time would come where he would have to find the right man who, upon his death, would take his place as king. Since there was no bloodline and no son who could rightfully take the king’s place, he called upon the people of the kingdom to help him find a suitable heir to the throne.

The king knew there would have to be a test of some sort that would help identify the most promising candidate. One day, while the king was taking a stroll through the countryside, he came upon a massive sinkhole. It was so large that you could fit at least two soccer fields inside of it. “I’ve got it!” exclaimed the King. “I know the test that would help me identify the next king.” And with that, he quickly returned to the castle to share his idea with his advisors.

The very next day, the king issued a decree throughout the kingdom. “Come one, come all. In three weeks’ time, those who feel worthy enough to take my place will meet in the town square to demonstrate why you are the one who should be the heir to the kingdom.” The day finally arrived. It seemed as if thousands of people traveled for miles to reach the town square; from every corner of the kingdom, with the dream of being chosen as the heir to the throne.

The king took these promising candidates out to the countryside to show them what he had found. “Here is the question that, if answered correctly, will earn you the rightful place as our next king.” Pointing to the massive hole, he simply asked, “What should I do?”

After several days and hundreds of responses later, no one had yet to come up with the right answer. Repeatedly, the king would hear the same responses. “Fill it with rocks and dirt.” “Fill it with water.” “Build a bridge across the sinkhole.” “Build a wall around it.” “Put warning signs around the sinkhole.” “Make it a graveyard.” “Leave it be.” “Camouflage the sinkhole to protect us from our enemies.” While some of these may be interesting ideas, none of them were the correct answer.

The king was getting discouraged, wondering if anyone was capable of thinking and acting like a successful king. As the number of candidates dwindled to a remaining few, it was time for one young man to answer the king’s question; a poor farm boy from the countryside who was ridiculed by those older and wiser than he for even considering the possibility of becoming king.

“So,” the king began with a disheartened and skeptical tone. “What should I do?”

The young man hesitated for a moment and then responded with, “Why do anything?”

Suddenly, the king’s disposition changed. He looked at the young man and asked with hope, “Why? When everyone else advised me what I could do with the sinkhole, why are you the only one not to advise me at all, nor tell me what I should do? Why do you come to me with only a question?” The young man respectfully answered. “Because I cannot answer your question, my king. I don’t know your why. Until I understand not just what you want to do but why you want to do anything about this sinkhole and your intentions behind it, only then can I advise you to create your desired outcome, even if the proper course of action is to do nothing.”

How insightful! Instead of telling the king what he would do, this young man simply asked the king one question. A question so simple, yet so powerful and often overlooked. “Why?” After all, how can you align and collaborate effectively with others if you don’t understand their motivations, intention and their why behind their beliefs, efforts, actions, opinions, decisions, behavior, goals or values?

“Congratulations,” exclaimed the king. “You are the next heir to the throne of our kingdom.” The town was shocked. The elders of the town questioned the king. “Why this boy?”

To which the king replied, “I never wanted to fix anything. That was not my intention. Everyone came to me with a solution to fixing what they assumed was a problem that needed fixing. They never took the time to uncover and understand my why or my desired intentions and point of view. This young man was the only one who was insightful enough to seek out my intention and uncover my why.”